I feel like I have to pull teeth to get him to help me! Am I alone?

I feel like I have to pull teeth to get him to %26#039;watch%26#039; our 7 month old daughter. He works full time- and I%26#039;m in school full time and we have another daughter who is 7. On the days I go to school- I have to get up at 5:30am so i can get myself ready, the girls ready and get them to school and the sitters just so i can make it to school by 9:30am (and take him to work- we only have 1 car until the middle of Oct).. then after school I get the girls and then I have to help our oldest with her homework and get dinner ready and then go get him from work then we eat dinner and then by the time its all picked up etc =- the girls get their shower/bath and get ready for bed- so by the time they are asleep in bed im EXHAUSTED and the last thing I feel like doing is my homework- let alone any housework. It%26#039;s really wearing on me now- as it%26#039;s been going on over 4 weeks.. i also have a class on saturday mornings- so i feel like i NEVER have a %26#039;weekend%26#039; and with him not helping me out-

I feel like I have to pull teeth to get him to help me! Am I alone?
when you figure out a solution for this PLEAASSEE let me know..im in the same boat as you...he was at home with the kids yesterday while i was at work and i called him asked him to put some laundry in he said ok but then went and told my brother who stays with us that i wanted him to do laundry...what an ***..i also go to school full time at night work all day..i never get time to study or do any house work and then he wonders why im so stressed out...DUH i dont know what it is with men but they dont get a damn thing...
Reply:how am i helping u? i dont know. the problem is him(or whoever ur talking about), he cant help u like that. it is better to quit it!
Reply:Well, it sounds to me like he no longer has the will to be a parent. Sometimes people are like that. He is being very selfish. My sisters husband was just like that. After 2 years and a set of twins, the marriage was over. I see the same thing happening to you. And that%26#039;s sad. You may have to drop school for a while and focus on being a mother. I don%26#039;t think your capable of being a student and a mother at the same time. Not with him around. A few tough life altering decisions are near. Don%26#039;t know what more to tell ya. Email me if there%26#039;s any advice I can help ya with. Good luck.
Reply:I wish I knew, but you%26#039;re not alone. For my husband, being away from our girls has cured him of that. He%26#039;s such a good daddy now, but it took months of separation for him to realize that I have a hard job. My husband was a SAHD while I worked full time, did all the housework, all the cooking and a lot of the baby care. He was just a live-in babysitter. Then he joined the Army, was away for seven months and he%26#039;s been fine since then. Now he%26#039;s in Iraq and can%26#039;t wait to get home to babysit the girls while I go out by myself.
Reply:Tell him that a man can%26#039;t be a %26quot;babysitter%26quot; for his own child! It%26#039;s called being a parent.





I find men respond best to schedules and regimens. Get a piece of paper and sit down with him. Say, %26quot;So we%26#039;re both on the same page and we both know what to expect and can plan around it, let%26#039;s set up a schedule of who watches which kid at what time. That way, there%26#039;s no miscommunication over who is supposed to be responsible.%26quot; Get him to concede to some more %26quot;shifts%26quot; than he is currently doing, and make the schedule a regular thing. Maybe when he sees it on paper as it currently is, he%26#039;ll realize how little he%26#039;s doing.



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